The New Deal
12 Jan
Doing chores.
Yay.
But since I don’t live with my parents anymore, it’s kind of essential that we actually do stuff around the house. I guess we could hire a maid, but why pay for one when I married one? HAYOOOOO! OMG JUST KIDDING.
I don’t really know how long it took, but Amanda and I eventually just came to an agreement on some things:
- If you prepare dinner, you don’t do the dishes.
- If both of us prepare dinner, we both do the dishes.
- Amanda will fold the laundry if Charlie washes it.
- Flip-flop letting the dog out.
- Charlie is a heavy sleeper. Amanda lets him out at night if he’s whining.
- Flip-flop cleaning the bathroom as needed.
- Flip-flop vacuuming as needed.
- Trash goes out with the next person to leave if it’s full.
- We don’t dust.
Well, Charlie wanted a new deal. Amanda does everything. OMG JUST KIDDING.
I requested some amendments to the agreement. After a bit of negotiating, the agreement was amended as:
- Amanda does all the laundry.
- Charlie keeps the entire kitchen clean.
- Charlie vacuums as needed.
The key to negotiating is ranking your assets/items. A 1 is something that is not important to you. A 10 is something that is very important to you.
To me, not doing laundry is a 10. I’m pretty willing to do most other things in order to get that.
Keeping the kitchen clean is a 3-4. I don’t dislike doing dishes. Taking out the trash isn’t a big deal. It’s a little more time consuming than washing clothes, but my personality just prefers this over laundry.
And vacuuming is a 1. I do it already. And I’m pretty savvy at it. (HAHA GET IT?!?) Plus we have the Dyson Ball DC24. It’s so money and you don’t even know it.
When I initially asked Amanda about the laundry-dishes trade off, it only included laundry and dishes. A 3-4 for a 10 in my book. I’m already coming out ahead. When she came back with adding vacuuming, it was over.

Lately, Charlie’s idea of “doing the dishes” entailed gathering all the dishes and putting them in the sink. What he doesn’t realize is that keeping the kitchen clean means just that, keep it clean. Throwing everything in the sink just isn’t going to cut it. So in my book, the trade is totally worth it.
Plus, we had some issues with him washing the clothes just recently. Be on the look out for my post about that lovely experience.
>> Plus, we had some issues with him washing the clothes just recently. Be on the look out for my post about that lovely experience.
Was it anything like the sweater miniaturization I did when you were in high school?